Takdir is the term in islam. What is the takdir? I think everyone has ever talk about takdir.
But, do they really know what takdir is? Many people said "this is my
takdir" when they got what they don't want, but when they got what they
want, they just thought that was because their efforts.
When i was elementry school, teacher tought us that takdir is
something that had decided for each of us before we were born. There are two
kinds of takdir, takdir that you can change or destiny and takdir that you
can't change or fate. The fates are like
your parents, when you were born, when and how you die and many things.
And the destinies are like your body weight, your rank in school, your career,
etc. We have try to get what we want (good will and good hope) and change what
we don't want happened, but when something we don't want is still
happened after we have efforted for that, so that is takdir and that's better
for us, even we don't want it. And i have this comprehension about takdir until
i was senior high school. I thought that every bad things happened that's not
because of my mistake, called takdir. Time goes on, many things happened until
i realized that i do not really understand what takdir is.
Something you don't like that you must undergone because you didn't
think bout it maturely and when you had opportunity to change it, your self
told you and persuassioned you to try undergone once again, perhaps you can do
it well next time. But in fact , it was
same, you can't do it well and when you want to change it again, your self told
you that is too late, it has spend many value things. So, you thought that you
have to finish it till the end. what do you think bout it? Is it takdir because
of this person's mistakes or not?or the mistakes that he/she did was
intentionally by allah to made the way of his/her life?
I have heard ustad (islam teacher) told a story about takdir. A long
time ago, there was someone in rasulullah period, was sitting and lean on the
wall. Immediately, he realized that the wall which he lean on would be fallen.
He moved to other safe place so that he avoided from the potent fall wall. In
this case, Allah had made 2 takdir (destiny) for this person. One takdir is he
will get the ruined fall wall if he still sit there and other takdir is he will
not get the fall wall if he move to other safe place. From this story, I
started to understand about takdir, that everything happened in our life is
takdir, good or bad, some you can effort (desnity), but some aren't (fate). But
before everything happened, we have try to get the best we can.
So, is it importent to find
whether the bad thing happened because of your mistake or not? And the
answer is yes, so that you can learn from your mistakes. But every bad things
that happened to our life, whether it was because of our mistakes or not, it
always has a lesson.
Don't blame your self, it's ok to make mistake but you have to learn
from it.
I am
sorry for my english :)